True Gospel with SAVIOUS-PARKER KWINIKA
UPON arrival at the North and South Gauteng high courts, one is greeted by 50 newly-wed couples celebrating their marriage. An equal number of couples, or even double that figure, are tearing their marriage certificates as they divorce.
The chorus among those divorcing is, “I’m done with this marriage! This is not romantic, not workable. This relationship has been abusive….I’m walking out. Enough is enough……I’m not a slave!”
A drive into townships or hotels in the cities such as Johannesburg, Pretoria, Cape Town, Durban, Port Elizabeth, Bloemfontein, Nelspruit or Mafikeng – the story is the same.
This also obtains around the continent and the globe.
Failed marriages are the order of the day.
Few marriages end amicably.
Many partners end up killing each other based on allegations of infidelity, double-dealing, adultery, flirtation and fornication.
Globally, it has become a standard for people to be single.
Single parents have become a majority. Children hardy grow under both parents.
Where there is marriage, couples are entangled upon who should be the head of the family.
They bicker over who is contributing what, who should be listened to.
There is physical harm over flimsy issues such as coming late back from work, missed calls or interaction on social media.
There are also serious issues such as the paternity of children.
There is glaring evidence of divorce across the world.
Allegations of disrespecting, ridiculing, mockery, rudeness and violence against women are topical issues everywhere.
Equally, men counter them accusing by charging their female counterparts of being disrespectful, too controlling, lazy, greedy and extravagance.
The vicious circle in marriage breakdown continues unabated.
Disturbingly, same sex relationships are galore.
Because these relationships bear no children, these couples adopt.
As marriages continue to crumble, the devil celebrates.
The creator of heaven and earth – Jehovah God -deeply frowns.
While Jehovah God insists husband and wife must love each other all eternally, the opposite is happening at a faster pace.
It is Jehovah God’s will that a woman will leave her parents to live with the man of her choice the rest of her life. Similarly, a man shall leave his parents to live with the woman of his choice.
Genesis 2:24 of the Berean Study Bible attests this True Gospel saying: “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.”
Further in the book of Ecclesiastes 9:9 of the English Standard Version states:“Enjoy life with the wife whom you love, all the days of your vain life that he (Jehovah God) has given you under the sun, because that is your portion in life and in your toil at which you toil under the sun.”
Mark 10:9 of the New International Version supports this True Gospel saying: “Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”
Following this declaration, Jehovah God also vowed love and respect in marriage must always reign supreme.
The reason why marriages today crumble just like a deck of cards is because of greedy, lack of mutual love, respect and tolerance on the part of both husbands and wives.
Some people enter into marriage for wrong reasons. A majority enter such unions for material gain. Others started their marriage very well but along the way got influenced by friends, relatives, workmates or business associates to dump their loved ones for wrong reasons best known to themselves.
The resultant misbehavior leads into undesired termination of a relationship.
This is because the two individuals involved have different objectives, goals, ambitions, aspirations, wishes, dreams, hopes, intentions, plans and purposes.
2 Corinthians 6:14 concurs with this True Gospel saying: “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?”
It is always important to keep up the early attentions of love developments. Partners or couples must look for the positive qualities in your spouse, and nurture that respect and love that first drew you together.
According to Ephesians 5:28 and verse 33 of the English Standard Version: “In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.”
Let us leave aside issues of human or women’s rights.
What makes a union workable or exciting is mutual respect, tolerance and faithfulness. The moment one believes they must be respected more based on their sex is when the problem starts.
Love and respect must be mutual.
Always remember love is an intense feeling of deep affection between two parties.
So, why then one party would want to be respected or favoured most while disregarding another’s feelings?
Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 of the New Living Translation states: “Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble.”
This is why it is encouraged that love must always be a two-way traffic.
Romans 13:8 of English Standard Version reinforces this True Gospel, “Owe no one anything, except to love each other, for the one who loves another has fulfilled the law.”
Most importantly, the book of 1 Corinthians 13:4-5 buttress this True Gospel. It states, “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.”
Further in the book of Ephesians 4:2 of the New Living Translation underpins this True Gospel saying: “Always be humble and gentle. Be patient with each other, making allowance for each other’s faults because of your love.”
The moment couples stop obsession with rights but focus on mutual love is when a marriage issue lasts longer.
Romans 12:10 of the New Living Translation says: “Love each other with genuine affection, and take delight in honoring each other.”
Jehovah God encourages that couples must love each other without looking who is a man or a woman.
That way, the love flows smoothly.
Ephesians 4:32 of the New Living Translation concurs: “Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.”
Brethren, marriage is a blending of two lives into one flesh. This doesn’t mean husbands and wives must think and feel exactly alike in everything. Marriage does not extinguish individuality.
While we think differently, it is always important to let the spirit of tolerance flow into the couple in order to live in harmony. Stop valuing the most external forces in your marriage at the expense of your spouse.
Finally, remember Jehovah God does not condone men who divorce their wives for no reason. A man is only allowed to divorce his wife based on her infidelity, cheating, two-timing or fornication.
Matthew 19:9 of the English Standard Version confirms this True Gospel. It states, “And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery.”
Those who believe in this True Gospel say amen!
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